tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post113847128341797459..comments2024-01-02T06:46:03.449-05:00Comments on Nick's Bytes: laissez-faireAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16939152657551690867noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138777152824425842006-02-01T01:59:00.000-05:002006-02-01T01:59:00.000-05:00Chica—Yes, I know. I keep seeing her as the 11-yea...Chica—Yes, I know. I keep seeing her as the 11-year-old in that body cast. Of course, her limp doesn’t help me forget it. <BR/><BR/>And I do love her child-like actions. Yet I really wish she would learn to make adult decisions; I am tempted too often to say “I told you this would happen.” Of course, I don’t—but she knows and sometimes says it for me. <BR/><BR/>Someday she may learn to see the relationship between her actions and the consequences of those actions. I fear I will be long dead before that happens.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16939152657551690867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138739622909745822006-01-31T15:33:00.000-05:002006-01-31T15:33:00.000-05:00IF YOU REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT IT... YOU WOULD BE HEL...IF YOU REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT IT... YOU WOULD BE HELPING HER BECAUSE SHE WOULD LEARN THAT SHE IS GROWN AND NOT A CHILD AND CAST HAVE EVERY THANG SHE WANTS!!! AND YOU WOULD HAVE MONEY TO SPEND!!! JUST A THOUGHTchica40208https://www.blogger.com/profile/11144301836177078342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138647321457774412006-01-30T13:55:00.000-05:002006-01-30T13:55:00.000-05:00Educatedunemployed—There is a story—a parable—that...Educatedunemployed—There is a story—a parable—that I once heard about a guy who kept falling in an open manhole. He did so many times before he finally decided to walk a different way. I shall post it someday soon.<BR/><BR/><BR/>JD’s Rose—Thank you. I had that little guy on my desk in the study of the last church I pastored. I just found him as I was emptying a box of stuff I brought home from the church. I am going to attempt to use him to express stuff like emotions in the blog.<BR/><BR/>Yes, people need to help themselves. I agree fully. What I realize from 30+ years as a therapist and counselor is that many people do not know how to help themselves.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Lawbrat—You are right. We learn certain ways of responding to the similar situations and even when they fail, we too often keep trying the same response. I think that is what the Myth of Sisyphus is about: keep rolling that damned boulder up the mountain in the hope that the next time it won’t roll down.<BR/><BR/>I know that when I find myself repeating the same acts and getting the same old results I realize that I need someone to help me change my frame of reference. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Abby—I hear you. I also know that looking at my self honestly and objectively is one of the most difficult things I can do.<BR/><BR/><BR/>JD’s Rose—I have the link updated and have been to visit your blog.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Azsonofagun—I think you, Rex, for your empathy.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Mike-in-Tucson—I almost agree. Sometimes I realize that I have needed people to point out that my shit stinks!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Thomas—Excellent point! I had not thought of the “Prime Directive” as a form of laissez-faire!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Frank—Thank you for reminding me. It is very good to hear your voice and your input.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Kylee—You have some exceptional observations. Thank you. It really does come down to the choices each of us makes. As I said somewhere above, the problem is that sometimes we don’t recognize that we have choices. If we do recognize our alternatives and keep doing the same old thing anyway, no one can help us in any way.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Chica—You are right. I have done as much as I can for Her—and actually more than I can afford to do. Yet, I find it hard to back off. I do not want to abandon her.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16939152657551690867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138643241326067042006-01-30T12:47:00.000-05:002006-01-30T12:47:00.000-05:00well nick you know very well you have all you can ...well nick you know very well you have all you can do for her. she is spolled i told that!chica40208https://www.blogger.com/profile/11144301836177078342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138599429398978792006-01-30T00:37:00.000-05:002006-01-30T00:37:00.000-05:00Unfortunatly....I don't think you can help any mor...Unfortunatly....I don't think you can help any more than you have. We all have to help ourselves and sometimes it takes us a very long time to learn from our own mistakes. We don't listen to those who know better because they are looking in from the outside...they see what we dont. But I know I listened to my friends a little (they were like that little voice in the back of my head)...but I still had to make the choice on my own to leave the bad relationship and decide to work on making sure I dont repeat. Only I can do that for myself.Kyleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01909739435547096628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138554581105259612006-01-29T12:09:00.000-05:002006-01-29T12:09:00.000-05:00Nicky boy! You have never let well enough alone. E...Nicky boy! You have never let well enough alone. Even when you were a kid you were always trying to make thing better and you still are trying to. You cannot save those fools from their own demons anymore than you could save your mother or even me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138521647502094492006-01-29T03:00:00.000-05:002006-01-29T03:00:00.000-05:00i dont knowi dont knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138518579229676882006-01-29T02:09:00.000-05:002006-01-29T02:09:00.000-05:00Remember: laissez-faire is OK as long as other peo...Remember: laissez-faire is OK as long as other people are willing to stay out of your shit, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138517954265901192006-01-29T01:59:00.000-05:002006-01-29T01:59:00.000-05:00I know what you mean. It is a real quandry what to...I know what you mean. It is a real quandry what to do in situations like those.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138513700359930522006-01-29T00:48:00.000-05:002006-01-29T00:48:00.000-05:00I don't have any answers. I know I would not be wh...I don't have any answers. I know I would not be where I am ow if friends had just let me go the way I was going. The made me look at myself and only then did I see who I was becoming and I do not like what I saw.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138500284617807362006-01-28T21:04:00.000-05:002006-01-28T21:04:00.000-05:00When someone keeps doing the same things over and ...When someone keeps doing the same things over and over, yet expecting a different result- they need to choose to make differnt choices. If thats what they want. You can guide, yet its up to them. Sometimes its very sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12709723.post-1138491477344623742006-01-28T18:37:00.000-05:002006-01-28T18:37:00.000-05:00True all that you said.But only if one stumbles wi...True all that you said.But only if one stumbles will he learn to get up and walk and god helps those who help themselves.Some time no matter how hard it becomes..Its best to let people be.educatedunemployedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09316059351639399463noreply@blogger.com