Wednesday, October 24, 2007

The "J" That Is Me

INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

INFJs place great importance on having things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives.

~ Portrait of an INFJ

On the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator I’m an INFJ. The “J” stands for “judging” and in the simplest terms means that I am not comfortable with unresolved situations: I want to make a decision and get on with it. I have a need for planning, organization, and ultimately, closure. Last Thursday when the young man who purchased my foreclosed home informed me that he had done so, I felt relief! Now that I know where I stand, I can begin the next step: locating a place to rent and moving.

Over the weekend, utilizing the Internet and local rental listing listings, I identified eleven rental properties that meet the criteria that I have set for a new home:

  • Cat (Alex) friendly
  • Affordable (within my budget)
  • Accessible (no or few stairs to climb)
  • Washer and Dryer hookup
  • Location (close to or in the city)
  • Enough space for me and my books

On Monday, when Tasha—the housekeeper that the Veterans Administration supplies to do the household chores that I am unable to do—came here, we began packing those things (my 2,000 or so books) that I do not need to use in my day to day living:

Taking action is, for me, stimulating. I find that I am now moving in a positive direction and can actually see light at the end of the tunnel.

Then, on Tuesday, the young man who purchased the house came by with an appraiser to (what else) appraise the house so that he can obtain a loan to purchase it. Again, we discussed the possibility of my remaining in the house as a renter.

Soooooooo, now I have another option to consider. I am in the process of listing the pros and cons of remaining here as a tenant. And I don’t have all of the information I need to complete the evaluation: until the young man obtains a loan, he has no idea what his mortgage payments will be for the house and therefore, we cannot discuss or negotiate rental fees and I can’t fill in the second of the criteria (affordability) I’ve set for deciding where to go.

The “J” in me is frustrated. I want to make a decision and get on with it! And so I am tempted to pray:

Lord, give me patience and give it to me NOW!


  1. Have you ever gone into a restuarant, looked at the menu, and they gave you way too many meals to select from that you couldn't make up your mind? Yet, when you read a menu with less on it, you tend to pick your selection faster.

    Pros and cons are good. I hope your patience outweighs the pressure.

    Hang in there! Hope all goes well, Nick!

  2. Wait a minute wait a minute - he bough the house first and *then* started looming for a loan?

    The expression "cart before the horse" comes to mind. Especially nowadays, when mortgage companies are having to be mighty picky.

  3. a great free resource is at

  4. I'm the same way. Waiting around is maddening- I would much rather do something than nothing.

  5. I make lists of pros and cons, too. That usually helps me decide what to do... :/

  6. It must be very cathartic (I hate that word) to be able to write about this difficult time. I think that you know that you have lots of friends out here. I have a very strong feeling that you will end up on your feet, in more ways than one.


  7. I like your list of priorities with Alex on top, right where you always put him.

  8. How well I know your desire for patience and the wanting of it right now. I had rather be doing (almost) anything than nothing. Hang in there. ec

  9. 2000 books and your cat, now I totally understand why you are Sometimes Saintly, more often than not, I suspect. Wishing you peace and knowing.... that's what would drive me mad.... not knowing. Best wishes, Nick....

  10. I think I would find it very strange to live in my house...when it was no longer my house. Perhaps moving to a new location would be better all around.

  11. As usual, Rev Saint, you have things under control. Whatever your decision, I know that it will be the right one for you.

    I just noticed those “random books” from your library. That’s new, isn’t it? I see we own at least two of the same books, Pagels and the Interpretation commentaries. I’ll have to investigation the other books in your library, which I know is quite extensive.

    Peace, my dear friend.

  12. here's me:

    Extraverted Sensing Thinking Judging

    "Administrator". Much in touch with the external environment. Very responsible. Pillar of strength. 8.7% of total population.
    ESTJs thrive on order and continuity... Being extraverted, their focus involves organization of people, which translates into supervision... ESTJs are joiners. They seek out like-minded companions in clubs, civic groups, churches and other service organizations... The family likewise is a central focus for ESTJs... They love to provide and to receive good service... ESTJ humor is frequently centered around something or someone being off center or behaving abnormally... Laziness is rarely viewed with ambivalence nor benevolence by this type... The ESTJ is outspoken, a person of principles, which are readily expressed. The ESTJ is not afraid to stand up for what she believes is right even in the face of overwhelming odds. ESTJs are able to make the tough calls.
    Occupations attracting ESTJs include teaching, coaching, banking, political office, and management at all levels.
    Famous ESTJs:
    Simon Peter (Christ's disciple)
    Elliot Ness
    John D. Rockefeller
    Bette Davis
    Robert A. Taft
    Rev. Billy Graham

    i dread moving one day... i also have lots of books- not as many as you- but a lot...

  13. Isn't that always the have options that you are considering down to one or two...and then, along comes another one!

    I just loathe moving Nick and my thoughts are with you. I like your attitude and can actually relate to it. There's nothing worse than not knowing what is going to happen. Once I know, then I can take the appropriate steps to deal with it.

    Best of luck and I hope all goes well, whatever you do and wherever you go.

  14. i'd be inclined to look around. you don't want to be messed around and might find a better deal elsewhere.

  15. Hi Nick ~~ I hope it all works out for the best for you ~ moving isn't easy when we get older and cannot do
    much ourselves. Getting a loan after buying a house is sure strange. It could all fall through. The wild fires are so terrible an I pray they will soon be under control and no more life is lost. Feel sad for the people who have lost everything.
    Thanks for your comments ~ I take it your mother is not into computers!! Take care Nick, Kind
    regards, Merle.

  16. As an ENFP I'm usually okay with "close enough". But when it comes to my living situation I'm no good not having an answer either. The one good things about being a renter in the home where you are now is that you don't have to move all of your books. I don't have that many, but I do have a lot. And they weigh a ton.

    Good luck on your living situation.

  17. ` I forget what letters I am. I think I'm an ESF - but I don't remember the last letter. Hmmmm.
    ` Good luck with getting that resolved! (I'm going to move, too, I hope... downstairs!)

  18. Nick, I’m praying that it all works out.

  19. I am definitely not an INFJ. The idea of it went out the window as soon as you said "orderly."

    Good luck in your endeavor and peace be with you.


  20. I am in the exact perdicament as you are in with the moving,
    to rent or to buy?????

    I'm out of private now

    My new url is

    I will link you when I figure out how to do this

  21. I am an ENTP. I could not make a decision if my life depended on it. Always keep all my options open as long as I can.

    I think it strange that the guy bought your house and now is seeking a loan. I always thought of those foreclosure sales the buyer had to have cash. Maybe it has changed. Everything else seems to have changed since 1950.

  22. Moving sucks. Period.
    Books or no books. (And I have a *ton* but suucessive moves have helped me separate the wheat from the chaff so future shifts won't be as burdensome. It's downright amazing how much you can let go of...feels great to be "light".)

    Well Mr. J man, I'm gettin' mo' info on your possible resonance to the blog banner descriptor you've chosen: bet that word "permanent" feels good alongside "uncertainty", eh?

    (wink and a smile)

    ENFP here.The long version result. (Not letters assigned through those abbreviated Myers-Briggs bits floating around the internet and here and there but the real-deal-long-questionnaire-and-it-must-be-sent-to-California-to-be-scored-and-evaluated-and-then-the-full-booklet-provided-to-you-as-the-results-are-presented-and-explained-by-a-trained-clinican but as close as you can get to the genuine article.)

    I {{puffy heart}} the Myers-Briggs. Excellent evaluation tool for use in a multitude of settings.

    Hope your comfort levels increase and choices become more solid sooner than later. Not knowing where you're going to live is a muthuh no matter what that last letter is, ya know?

    Maslow and his shelter. He was spot-on about that. Gots to have protection of some kind from those elements.

    Best to you.